“How can we worship in various ways the Divine, who is not within our reach, if we neglect mother, father and guru, who are within our reach?” (Lord Rama speaking to Sita Devi, Valmiki Ramayana, Ayodhya Kand, 30.33)
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अस्वाधीनं कथं दैवं प्रकारैरभिराध्यते।
स्वाधीनं समतिक्रम्य मातरं पितरं गुरुम्।।
asvādhīnaṃ kathaṃ daivaṃ prakārairabhirādhyate।
svādhīnaṃ samatikramya mātaraṃ pitaraṃ gurum।।
“One teaching from the Ramayana particularly stands out for me. It might not be the subject of many discourses, Rama-katha, or the primary lesson to take away from that historical tale written by Maharishi Valmiki, but for some reason it resonates with me.
“The situation is that Shri Rama, the avatara of the Almighty described in that work, has made the decision to honor the wishes of the father, King Dasharatha, and leave the kingdom for fourteen years. Sita Devi, Rama’s wife, refuses to stay in Ayodhya alone. She insists on accompanying Rama.
“Sita’s husband at one point asks a rhetorical question in relation to worship of the gods that we can’t see. This is one of the primary criticisms of followers of sanatana-dharma, that they prostrate before imaginary divine figures. They offer food and clothing to inanimate objects, like statues made of stone, but neglect the needy within their communities.
“Rama asks how the Divine can be worshiped properly when the mother, father and guru get neglected? The latter are both worshipable and animate, while the Divine remains far away, at least for those who are still conditioned.
“I like this teaching a lot. I most certainly concur. If society treated parents properly, gave them due respect, we would have a lot less problems. But there is also the other side. What if our parents are not necessarily supportive? Say they are steadfastly against our practice of devotion to the Supreme Lord? Should we still worship them? Should they still receive the same honor?”
1. The tradition is considered satanic
“Don’t worship false gods. You don’t need to stray into something that is more or less satanic. We have our tradition. We have our faith. We have the community to support everyone. Why are you being different for no reason?
“I understand that you have a lot of unanswered questions. So does everyone else. But you don’t see them falling victim to this new age stuff, do you? They are strong-willed. They know that turning away from their faith is a guaranteed way to spend eternity in hell.”
2. Wanting their children to earn money and enjoy life
“Why are you giving up so easily? You are so young; you have no idea what is out there. Endless potential. Don’t you want to get a good job and own a house? Wife and children?
“The path you are choosing will bring loneliness and sadness. You will be ostracized from society. Don’t you want to have friends? Why are you limiting enjoyment in this world, for no reason? You only get one life. I believe in God, too. Trust me, I do. But you don’t see me running away from the world and living in a forest.”
3. Vishnu is the enemy
This is the extreme case, highlighted in the interactions between Prahlada Maharaja and his father, King Hiranyakashipu. Prahlada showed spontaneous devotion, bhakti, at a young age. The father objected. Prahlada did not argue or criticize. He simply explained the reasoning behind the decision, in a rational and coherent way.
The respect carried no reciprocation. Hiranyakashipu so hated Vishnu, the Supreme Lord, that he chose to apply force to stop any signs of worship in the kingdom. This is the most extreme case, where the parents will simply refuse to accept the decision of the child.
The objections are not rooted in intelligence or knowledge. Vishnu is the well-wishing friend to the entire population of creatures. The tradition of spirituality which explains the entire cosmic manifestation, its component elements, and the relationship to the individuals living within is certainly superior to any tradition based merely on faith or blind allegiance to a particular book which has been edited and translated many times over since the origin.
The parents may lament that their child has chosen renunciation in spirit, where they are still part of this world but not affected by it. But that decision actually brings more happiness than anyone can imagine. This is the best decision in terms of the interests of the parents, as well. I should be most proud that my child has decided to dedicate body, mind and speech to the Supreme Lord, for it will reflect well on me.
In Closing:
Should be proud others to tell,
Since reflecting on me well.
That my child with this decision,
In face of criticism and derision.
To dedicate body, mind and speech,
To Vishnu and in this way teach.
That material life for the wise not meant,
For highest purpose to this world sent.
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One of those offenses is to commit sinful activity on the strength of chanting. In other words, since I am engaged in the timeless art of devotion, recommended by great souls like Prahlada Maharaja and King Janaka, I can do whatever I want the rest of the time. I am someone who has carte blanche in society, because the king of kings, Shri Rama, will protect me.
Daviam can also refer to the family deities, the demigods, or whoever is not visibly manifest but is eligible for worship through authority. This is one of the criticisms against devotees; that they worship statues but never actually see God. Why not treat others well, instead, since you can actually see them?
“Day after day countless living entities in this world go to the kingdom of death. Still, those who remain aspire for a permanent situation here. What could be more amazing than this?” (Maharaja Yudhishthira speaking to Yamaraja, Mahabharata, Vana-parva, 313.116)
As to who has seen what, no one is able to tell another person’s experience based merely on their own. As an example, I have no idea how to fly an airplane. I wouldn’t know the first thing to do. This does not mean that everyone else has the same limitation; to make such a claim is silly.
Therefore, it can be said that devoted souls detect what is plainly visible to everyone else. They also see what others cannot: the influence of the Almighty in every aspect of life. They maintain this spiritual vision throughout their dedicated practices in devotion, and carry it forward into the future, after quitting the body.
“Then I, resembling a cloud and having molten-golden earrings, made my way into Vishvamitra’s ashrama, for I was very proud of my strength due to the boon given to me by Lord Brahma. As soon as I entered, Rama quickly noticed me and raised His weapon. Though He saw me, Rama strung His bow without any fear.” (Maricha speaking to Ravana, Valmiki Ramayana, Aranya Kand, 38.16-17)
The same applies to training, in virtually any field. Trial and error has meaning. Do something wrong in the first few iterations, in order to learn. There are obvious precautions necessary in some cases, such as with flying a plane, driving a car, or even cooking. Put salt in the place where the recipe calls for sugar, and there could be serious health consequences. Drive on the wrong side of the road on a major highway and there is sure to be chaos.
The pretense of training serves to further glorify Vishvamitra and those saintly people fully dedicated to the path of righteousness and virtue. God the person is the worshipable object of the saintly class, who never forgets Him, and who knows that good will always ultimately triumph over evil.
“Then I, resembling a cloud and having molten-golden earrings, made my way into Vishvamitra’s ashrama, for I was very proud of my strength due to the boon given to me by Lord Brahma. As soon as I entered, Rama quickly noticed me and raised His weapon. Though He saw me, Rama strung His bow without any fear.” (Maricha speaking to Ravana, Valmiki Ramayana, Aranya Kand, 38.16-17)
These sages were out of the spotlight entirely. They were humble, but who would actually meet them to find out? Even today, no one thinks of going to a remote area for vacation, to meet someone who has no possessions and is constantly
This is but a glimpse into the potency of the Almighty. Proof of His existence is in every aspect of living, from morning until night, from childhood until old age, at the time of birth and also when it is the end of the line. The wise accept His shelter as the only impenetrable barrier, used to improve and extend the life in devotion to Him, which is the only one worth following.
“Then I, resembling a cloud and having molten-golden earrings, made my way into Vishvamitra’s ashrama, for I was very proud of my strength due to the boon given to me by Lord Brahma. As soon as I entered, Rama quickly noticed me and raised His weapon. Though He saw me, Rama strung His bow without any fear.” (Maricha speaking to Ravana, Valmiki Ramayana, Aranya Kand, 38.16-17)
This is a small, almost harmless, case of jealousy leading to irrational behavior. Sibling rivalries operate in this way, back and forth, well into adulthood. Take the attitude to the extreme and you get an idea of how the Rakshasas of Lanka could attack in the way they did.
Rama is the great protector of the saints, and through to the modern day He gives assurance of His presence through the incarnation that is the holy name:
“Neither the demigods nor any exalted personalities were there helping Rama, for He acted alone. You should not entertain any doubt on this matter. Indeed, Rama shot feathered arrows, plated with gold, which turned into five-headed serpents that devoured all the Rakshasas. The Rakshasas were oppressed with fear, and wherever they went and wherever they turned, they saw Rama in front of them. In this way, O spotless one, have your Rakshasas been destroyed in the forest of Janasthana by Rama.” (Akampana speaking to Ravana, Valmiki Ramayana, Aranya Kand, 31.18-19)
But a villain like Ravana does not require justification; the senses dictate every move. This should have been a quick encounter. Short and painless, with success guaranteed. It turned out to be true, but the other way around. Rama easily routed the fourteen thousand Rakshasas. For God this is child’s play. He can defend against fourteen million, if needed.
The sura class, those who acknowledge God and are steadfastly devoted to Him, always sees Him, no matter where they are. They are neither running away nor hoping for additional time in ignorance. They bask in His presence, no matter where they live, and see Him standing tall, ready to protect and defend.