“It is said in the Manu-smriti that lust cannot be satisfied by any amount of sense enjoyment, just as fire is never extinguished by a constant supply of fuel. In the material world, the center of all activities is sex, and thus this material world is called maithunya-agara, or the shackles of sex life. In the ordinary prison house, criminals are kept within bars; similarly, the criminals who are disobedient to the laws of the Lord are shackled by sex life.” (Shrila Prabhupada, Bhagavad-gita, 3.39 Purport)
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Friend1: Are you aware of how diametrically opposed to conventional thinking the science of self-realization is?
Friend2: In what respect? Is this in terms of health, where Ayurveda has a different approach than the expensive, newly developed therapeutics that are on the market?
Friend1: Well, that is a component to it, but only a small one. I am talking bigger picture.
Friend2: Give me an example.
Friend1: If you happen to immerse yourself in pop culture, there is no way to avoid the sexual overtones.
Friend2: As in, they are promoting sexual behavior?
Friend1: Of all kinds. The movies might center around family life, but it is always about enjoying. That is the primary concern.
Friend2: If we are honest about it, the same sentiment is shared in religious circles. You approach God so that He will help you out. They rationalize the behavior by speculating that God wants everyone to enjoy, so why limit yourself?
Friend1: Limitations are necessary for vitality and proper functioning. Everyone acknowledges this, at least subtly. You can’t eat an entire pizza pie for dinner each night and expect to feel good in the aftermath. You put a limit on eating. It is a restriction.
Friend2: Okay, but that is different from advising to never eat pizza. That is probably where people get the wrong idea of scriptural provisions. They think that we are trying to eliminate the fun.
Friend1: Look at the teaching about lust. Known as kama in Sanskrit, in Bhagavad-gita we learn that lust is the great devouring enemy of this world. Shri Krishna advises that it be controlled right from the start.
Friend2: He is right, and He would certainly know, based on His standing as the Supreme Personality of Godhead.
Friend1: His Divine Grace A.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada is more direct in the instruction. He says that sex life is the great trap of the material world. It is like pouring gasoline on the fire, indulging the senses in that way.
Friend2: Difficult to argue against.
Friend1: For sure, and I laugh out loud whenever I come across such statements.
Friend2: Why is that?
Friend1: Not because I disagree. He is just so blunt and unafraid to go against the conventional thinking. Men like to joke that being married is like getting sent to prison, but the acharya compares sex life to the same. You won’t hear that anywhere else.
Friend2: It’s brutal honesty that we need to hear. Everyone else is steering us in the wrong direction. Better to control lust than to indulge it.
Friend1: How do you get passed the stigma of being seen as someone who is condemning everyone else?
Friend2: That is easy. We are being condemned through kama. No one is happy. At least I don’t see anyone who is. A person may be expert at indulging the senses in this way, but eventually they want something more. Not to mention the many associated problems.
Friend1: Such as?
Friend2: You look at the people who are really in trouble in life, and uncontrolled sex always seems to be at the root. A divorced man having to pay child support. Someone dropping out of school early in order to support the child that arrived unexpectedly. Drug and alcohol addiction through association with people interested only in sense gratification.
Friend1: It is fairly common to find rehabilitated addicts turning to God.
Friend2: And so the Vedas advise to make the turn prior to the problems. Prevention is better than a cure. Don’t wait for rehab. Fix yourself now. It is certainly difficult, as Arjuna asked Krishna. We’re basically trying to control the wind, but through practice and detachment we have a chance. That is why the true acharya gives the positive in addition to the negative.
Friend1: What do you mean?
Friend2: He will provide restrictions, such as avoiding meat eating, gambling, intoxication and illicit sex. But he will also give the more important positive side. This is the regulative practice of connecting with the Supreme Lord. Even if done only mechanically at first, through steady progression a transformation will take place: Hare Krishna Hare Krishna, Krishna Krishna, Hare Hare, Hare Rama Hare Rama, Rama Rama, Hare Hare.
In Closing:
A transformation to take place,
Attention on restriction to erase.
Where what not to do,
Lust and intoxication too.
Meant for higher taste finding,
Principles list daily reminding.
Otherwise like a fire raging,
This battle against kama waging.
“Salokya means that after material liberation one is promoted to the planet where the Supreme Personality of Godhead resides. Samipya means remaining an associate of the Supreme Personality of Godhead. Sarupya means attaining a four-handed form exactly like that of the Lord. Sarshti means attaining opulences like those of the Supreme Lord, and sayujya means merging into the Brahman effulgence of the Lord. These are the five types of liberation.” (Shrila Prabhupada, Chaitanya Charitamrita, Madhya 6.266 Purport)
Friend2: Loss of identity. Almost a stateless existence. They would rather maintain their individuality and serve directly the person they separately identify as worshipable.
Friend2: Well, guilty as charged. Be thankful for people who give you the complete picture, who talk straight. They do not show false compassion by equating two things that are indeed not equal. Everyone follows the Supreme Lord in all respects, and the devotees look only for the opportunity that brings eternal living.
“As a ripe fruit has no other fear than to fall, so a man who is born has no other fear than death.” (Lord Rama, Valmiki Ramayana, Ayodhya Kand, 105.17)
Friend1: The crisis, as we will call it, makes total sense. At least to me, I understand why there is some concern over the future. You have lived for so long and there is something lacking. You might even be married with children, pulling in a steady and reliable income, and still feel a deep void.
Friend2: In whatever time period I learn the truth, that I make the proper inquiries, at least I have gone in the right direction. It is never too late, as even at the moment of death I can make the proper turn towards the Supreme Personality of Godhead, as Ajamila did.
“The Blessed Lord said: My dear Arjuna, O son of Pritha, behold now My opulences, hundreds of thousands of varied divine forms, multicolored like the sea.” (Bhagavad-gita, 11.5)
Friend2: The frog in the well does not understand the outside world. If you try to explain to them the size of the Pacific Ocean, they will try to contemplate in terms of the well.
Friend2: This was visual confirmation for something he already knew. Arjuna made sure to reference authorities in his subsequent praise of Krishna. The viewpoint was shared by notable personalities like Vyasa and Narada. We will always have defects, as will others. The claim is that the Vedas are perfect, since they originate in the infallible one, Achyuta. We can test for ourselves through the processes and principles passed on by the acharya to see if there is truth.
“Suffering without knowledge, without remedy, is animal life. One who cannot understand that he is suffering and who thinks that he is very well off is in animal consciousness, not human consciousness. The human being should be cognizant of suffering the threefold miseries of this planet. One should know that he is suffering in birth, suffering in death, suffering in old age and suffering in disease, and one should be inquisitive as to how he may avoid the suffering. That is real research work.” (Shrila Prabhupada, Easy Journey To Other Planets, Ch 2)
Friend1: The animal is happy-go-lucky. They have no idea what is going on. Okay, they cannot easily avoid oncoming attack without extra assistance. They cannot see that the person wielding the knife is not a friend. Yet they reach the same fate as the human being.
Friend1: Barring this pursuit, the human birth would definitely be a curse.
“In the Hari-bhakti-vilasa there is the following statement about self-surrender: ‘My dear Lord, a person who has surrendered himself unto You, and is in firm conviction that he is Yours, and actually acts in that way by his body, mind and words, can actually relish transcendental bliss.’” (The Nectar of Devotion, Ch 11)
Friend2: That is very nice.
Friend2: The person you are describing is not a theoretical devotee. They are dear to Krishna, in truth.
“O son of Kunti, the nonpermanent appearance of happiness and distress, and their disappearance in due course, are like the appearance and disappearance of winter and summer seasons. They arise from sense perception, O scion of Bharata, and one must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed.” (Lord Krishna, Bhagavad-gita, 2.14)
Friend1: Anyway, it wasn’t easy to find a place that would take the photos. They have to be approved and assigned by the insurance company to perform such a task. I finally found one that was near where I live.
Friend2: Spiritual happiness. You should certainly strive for this. That is the reason for our vibrancy. We are alive to meet this lofty goal, which has thus far remained elusive. Follow your prescribed duties. Do enough to maintain body and spirit, but always keep the primary focus on pleasing the Supreme Personality of Godhead. He is known as Mukunda because He is the giver of
“You have a right to perform your prescribed duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of action. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, and never be attached to not doing your duty.” (Lord Krishna, Bhagavad-gita, 2.47)
Friend2: I see. Literacy in the language of publication.
Friend1: An ever-increasing population, I might add. How do Bhagavad-gita and
“For one who has accepted the boat of the lotus feet of the Lord, who is the shelter of the cosmic manifestation and is famous as Mukunda or the giver of mukti, the ocean of the material world is like the water contained in a calf’s hoofprint. Param padam, or the place where there are no material miseries, or Vaikuntha, is his goal, not the place where there is danger in every step of life.” (Shrimad Bhagavatam, 10.14.58)
Friend1: I found myself in such a predicament recently. You don’t realize the danger of the situation until you are stranded on the side of the road, feeling helpless.
Friend2: To us it is amazing, since we are so helpless. For Narayana it is not much effort at all. He generates, maintains and destroys the infinite universes through His breathing. Why would it be so difficult for Him to change the nature of our experience here? He is the greatest well-wishing friend and we can use whatever we have in life to honor Him on a daily basis.
“Vasudeva saw that wonderful child born as a baby with four hands, holding conchshell, club, disc, and lotus flower, decorated with the mark of Shrivatsa, wearing the jeweled necklace of kaustubha stone, dressed in yellow silk, appearing dazzling like a bright blackish cloud, wearing a helmet bedecked with the vaidurya stone, valuable bracelets, earrings and similar other ornaments all over His body and an abundance of hair on His head.” (Krishna, The Supreme Personality of Godhead, Vol 1, Ch 3)
Friend2: A confirmation of Divinity. Leaving no room for speculation or error. Every indication was there. The four hands, the ornaments in the right place, the mark on the chest, the dazzling beauty, and the proper color cloth around the waist.
Friend2: There was the akasha-vani, as well. Remember, that was the reason the parents were in jail to begin with. A voice from the sky told Kamsa that Devaki’s eighth child would be his doom. Krishna was that eighth child. Everything fell into place. More important than seeing God is serving Him, and that is exactly the path Vasudeva chose in the aftermath. He was not simply stunned into submission and silence. He carried through on directions, against all odds and without fear.
“Vasudeva saw that wonderful child born as a baby with four hands, holding conchshell, club, disc, and lotus flower, decorated with the mark of Shrivatsa, wearing the jeweled necklace of kaustubha stone, dressed in yellow silk, appearing dazzling like a bright blackish cloud, wearing a helmet bedecked with the vaidurya stone, valuable bracelets, earrings and similar other ornaments all over His body and an abundance of hair on His head.” (Krishna, The Supreme Personality of Godhead, Vol 1, Ch 3)
Friend1: Which we can see in the vision of the four-handed Narayana. It is something special to behold. Vasudeva is not an ordinary person.
Friend1: And to Kamsa?
“For self-realization, the people in Satya-yuga, living a lifetime of a hundred thousand years, were able to perform prolonged meditation. And in Treta-yuga, when the duration of life was ten thousand years, self-realization was attained by performance of great sacrifice. And in the Dvapara-yuga, when the duration of life was one thousand years, self-realization was attained by worship of the Lord. But in the Kali-yuga, the maximum duration of life being one hundred years only and that combined with various difficulties, the recommended process of self-realization is that of hearing and chanting of the holy name, fame, and pastimes of the Lord.” (Shrila
Friend2: You are a special person if you even approach the Almighty. Anyway, in Treta-yuga these yajnas were so amazing that the quantity of ghee poured into the fires would be astonishing, by today’s standard.
Friend2: That is why every potency is within the name. Bhagavan understands the difficulty of life in Kali-yuga. He maintains an open-door. He is not restricted for someone because they are living in an inauspicious time.